Dear Abby: How can I help my daughter after breaking up with her boyfriend?

DEAR ABBY: My 18-year-old daughter recently broke up with her boyfriend. She caught him on the phone talking to another woman and there were other signs of his infidelity. She is devastated, and so am I. I really liked the guy, but he obviously didn’t care about my daughter or her feelings.

I told my daughter everything would be okay in time. But there are a lot of memories for him, so it’s difficult for him. He sent her a message to apologize, but then blocked her. He also blocked her on Instagram. She doesn’t understand why. I said maybe the other girl told him or he doesn’t want anything to do with her anymore. How can I help my daughter through this crisis? – LOVE HURT IN NEW YORK

DEAR LOVE HURT: Suggest to your daughter that if she has any memories from this romance, get rid of them or put them somewhere she won’t see them. The same goes for the music that reminds her. People get through these painful experiences by staying busy and not giving themselves time to wake up. Encourage him to hang out with friends and stay active. Why did this guy apologize and then block him, I think he apologized because he felt guilty and then blocked him because he wanted to move on.

DEAR ABBY: Daughter and son-in-law live with us. She is painting the interior to renovate our 27 year old house and wants to update the cabinets at her own expense. Whenever she tries to make things look better, her father gets angry and accuses her of trying to take “his” house before he dies. (This is not true.) He says if you ask someone, they will agree with him. I say he is wrong. what to do – GROWING UP IN INDIANA

HONORABLE RISE: If your daughter and her husband want to paint and install new cabinets only in the area of ​​the house they occupy, your husband should contain his anger. If your daughter is trying to do more than that with the idea that at some point, she will inherit the country, your husband’s anger may be justified. You are all adults. Find a way to discuss this and reach a compromise.

DEAR ABBY: Mom is starting to drive me crazy. She thinks that in order for me to consider myself a successful career woman, I need a job that has steady, steady hours, offers health benefits, and has a retirement plan.

I have a job, but due to the pandemic, my hours are temporarily staggered. I have no benefits, but I can manage those things (insurance and pensions) myself. How do I make my mother understand this and not treat me like a little kid with no plans for my future? – AT THE END OF WITS IN MARYLAND

DEAR WITS END: It is a mother’s duty to worry about her children, so be patient with her. If your security isn’t enough to stop her comments, show her the documents that support your case.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.